How to Win Friends and influence People.

Books are a great source of inspiration. The book of Arichandra changed Mohandoss as Mahatma. There are many tales like this.

One book that appeals to everyone is by Dale Carnegie titled as How to Win Friends and influence people.

Though many might have read it, for those who have not so far gone through the book,the essence is given here.

Dale points out certain important things if you wish to be a peoples' person.

There are 10 important traits a person should have if he wants to earn more friends and influence others.

They are.

1. Every one has some good quality. Find out and appreciate that. Some one may have good handwriting, good personality, excellent dress sense, etc etc. Look for that and give whole hearted appreciation.

2. If you want to catch a fish, you should put the food that is liked by the fish in the hook and not otherwise. Like wise when you wish others should do what you expect from them, tell them the benefits that would accrue to them. Then see how the work is finished.

3. The most inexpensive thing is SMILE. Smile a lot. It attracts others. When others greets you greet them wholeheartedly with a broad smile. You could see the transformation soon.

4. Never speak about always yourself. Allow others to speak. Let them sing their tunes. The sweetest tune to others is their voice, listen with intent when others speak. You can earn more friends by being reticent, then by speaking.

5. Do not argue. The best way to win an argument is to avoid it. The more you argue the more you tend to become too personal. It will invite unwanted things.

6. When you commit an error or mistake, admit openly, there is nothing wrong even if you say sorry, let it be to your friend,boss or other colleagues or to your family members. If you wrongly scold your siblings or wards, there is nothing wrong in feeling sorry for that.

7. When you embark on some big projects, celebrate the little improvements. If you are a boss, when your colleagues show some improvements in a work, appreciate it with a cup of coffee. This will be a great impetus to them for further improvement.

8. When some one tells that he has doubts about his ability to finish the work, tell them their achievements, tell him with confidence that you believe him.

9. Even for very big problems there lies a solution. In the times of Archimedes when his country was surrounded by a Roman Ship, the King called the scientist and asked what to do if the enemy attacked them since the Romans were a powerful foe.The Scientist had a wonderful solution. He had hundreds of concave mirrors specifically designed for this purpose and erected on the sands of his country's sea shore. When the Sun's rays touched the mirrors, it returned the rays with much force and reflected on the ship that was standing in the sea. The ship was burnt down like a torched hay stock. The entire enemy was destroyed by a simple idea. No war no loss only ideas. So for every problem there lies a solution.

10. Money is needed for a comfortable living. But that is not the be all and end all for everything.Human relations are more important than money. People crave for appreciation and praise. Give them freely without any hitch. See the sea change.To improve the friends circle spread the sweetness of appreciation, smile etc.

The book tells lot of simple ideas like this. For a change we may follow some thing that is easy for us.